Marriage
is a significantly important decision in most
people
's lives. Most modern
people
have a tendency to choose their spouses by themselves.
However
, in some countries,
marriage
is arranged by
parents
because most
parents
are more experienced than their children but it would be better to ask for kids’ opinions on their wedding. Personally, I will consider selecting my own spouse and in
this
essay, I will discuss both views.
To start with, in many countries, especially in Asia, arranged marriages commonly occur in their society.
Parents
will explore suitable
people
to marry with their son or daughter.
Due to
parents
’ experiences that much more than their children, they will find
people
who are proper.
For example
,
parents
in many countries in Asia endorse
people
who are working as specialists
such
as doctors, engineers, lawyers, and so on. Some
parents
will select their kids’ spouses based on their expertise because these jobs are more respectful and have a high salary.
In contrast
, some families allow their kids to choose their
partner
by kids’ preferences because they believe that
marriage
is not only about benefits and appropriateness but
love
and understanding are much more important.
Moreover
, if two
people
build a family without
love
it will affect their child.
For instance
, some families that marry for their benefit are not bonding with their
partner
or their child,
thus
, kids are not fulfilled by
love
and interest.
Definitely, the main reason that
people
must choose their own
partner
is lifestyle and compatibility. Personally, I believe that all humans are different and
people
must learn to accept differences in other
people
, especially
people
who become a spouse. If your lifestyle between you and your
partner
are completely different you are not fully happy.
For example
, you are an introvert and do not like to go to parties but your spouse is an extrovert and always holds parties at home.
This
will be a great conflict in the
marriage
life.
Thus
, I think
people
must get to know and spend time with
people
who will be their
partner
before
marriage
to avoid problems that will follow after that.
In summary, I think
people
must select their own
partner
rather than marry someone their
parents
choose.
Although
parents
have more experience than their son or daughter,
marriage
is about two
people
who live together and build another family.
Thus
,
love
and understanding are more important than appropriateness.