Parents have always been concerned with how to nurture their
children
especially in terms of shaping their
behaviour
.
In other words
, it has always been a controversial issue whether
children
’s
behaviour
should be controlled strictly or they should be allowed to behave freely on their own choice. I believe, it is necessary that parents take a moderate approach so as to deal with
this
issue.
On the one hand, according to psychologists having strict control over kids’
behaviour
is likely to
result
in resentment and reluctance in their manners which in turn, might cause them to become stubborn and obstinate grown-ups.
This
is because they virtually have never experienced the
freedom
to make their own choices.
For example
, even by getting the most rational and logical advice from wise and experienced
people
,
such
grown-ups might still tend to oppose others in spite of being totally agreed deep down.
Furthermore
,
children
who are dominated strictly might not have the chance to properly develop their own decision-making and problem-solving skills and
as a
result
, they might not make wise and mentally mature adults.
On the flip side, some
people
adopt the approach of giving thorough
freedom
in
behaviour
to their
children
. Kids who are grown up under
such
circumstances might become over-confident adults who are arrogant enough to rely solely on themselves and not making efforts to learn things based on reality and truth or even refuse to ask others’ advice or opinions on shared issues.
As a
result
, they cannot cooperate with others properly and might seem disobedient from
people
’s viewpoints which can
result
in becoming isolated or rejected by society.
Also
, given the fact that in many cases
children
do not have enough knowledge and experience to make safe choices,
such
freedom
in
behaviour
might
result
in getting hurt either physically or mentally. A simplistic example would be a child who is allowed to play with the stove and
consequently
gets hurt seriously.
To conclude, some
people
prefer controlling their
children
strictly while some
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in complete
freedom
. In my opinion, neither the former nor the latter approach will work efficiently if they are considered solely. Parents should balance out their
behaviour
towards
children
so as to raise kids who are confident enough to make rational decisions and able to cooperate with
people
in society.