In some cultures, children are often told that they can achieve anything if they try hard enough. What are the advantages and disadvantages of giving children this message?

Recently, in some cultures,

parents

encourage their

children

to work hard for achieving anything in their lives.

This

crucial part of upbringing in some cultures has two dimensions which include a constructive

way

for the future of

children

and a demoralizing

way

for their futures. The positive side of

this

process may lead to making

children

independent, and the opposite side may be rewarded with underestimating the

reality

of problems (Toxic positivity) in their lives. Working hard makes

children

independent for their objectives in their life.

Parents

in some cultures are trying to say the common expression to their

children

to rewire their brains with the combination of working hard and an insatiable thirst for success. When I was just a 7-year-old boy, and I was fixing a complex puzzle of Batman’s face (which is still my favourite character), for a

second

, I became flustered and threw all pieces of the puzzle across my room. The door was open and my father was monitoring me. He came to my room and collected all those scattered puzzles together. He sat

next

to me, held my hand, and said, the cost of being wrong is less than the cost of doing nothing. Do it again. The sentence was a little bit difficult for a 7-year-old boy. But

this

sentence made me powerful and independent until now that I am writing

this

paragraph.

In addition

, by telling

this

cliché to

children

that working hard is the only

way

for being successful, they underestimate the

reality

of some ups and downs in their life. Unfortunately, nowadays,

parents

are just trying to impose on their

children

to focus on some positive points too much (Toxic positivity).

Parents

say you have to be a winner, there is no

way

, you should work hard,

failure

is not an option and another ridiculous idea. While they should say, I know that the essence of

failure

is annoying but if your attempts lead to a dismal

failure

, it is okay. It is an inevitable part of your life.

Failure

is an essential component of innovation and invention. At the

first

, accept the

reality

of

this

failure

and in the

next

step find a solution by working hard. To sum up, working hard is not an absolute

way

for

children

to achieve their goals. By finding

this

intersection between working hard and accepting the

reality

of some problems and failures (avoiding Toxic positivity), our

children

can have a clear future.